This Mental Health Notes post is brought to us by Doreen Orion, and is Day Three of Doreen Orion’s Queen of the Road Blog Tour:
Another important lesson we learned is that all that really matters is spending time with the people you love. It sounds so simple, doesn’t it? And, while it’s true that in traveling around the country through 47 states (including Alaska), we met incredibly diverse and unique people, we also found that we all had one thing in common: Wanting to love and be loved. Yet, that’s not what most spend their time doing. We had been guilty of that, as well.
On the bus, we learned how crucial it is to downsize and simplify our lives so that we don’t end up supporting a lifestyle filled with things instead of people and experiences. Tim and I are polar opposites. Maybe that’s why we have so much fun together – even if it’s doing something that might not turn out as planned.
By now, you know that the out-of-doors is not exactly my thing. Well, after meeting a remarkable man of the bush in tiny Wrangell, Alaska, I decided that if he could live for days in a tree in the rain along the river hunting moose, the least I could do was try hiking, again. Tim was thrilled . . . until we hiked. For it was on Sitka’s Harbor Mountain that we took what I would come to term The Alaskan Death March. Although even I had to admit the scenery was spectacular (ocean, islands, distant peaks, yada yada) the lack of an escalator on the steep climb nearly did me in. And why should I suffer alone?
So I devised the Five Stages of Getting Grief from Hiking with Doreen: Denial (“We’re not going all the way up there, are we?”); Anger (“I can’t believe I let you take me on this stupid hike!”); Bargaining (“If we stop now, I’ll have the energy to do another hike tomorrow. Really, I promise!”); Despair (“Oh, why did I ever let you talk me into anything over three miles?”); Acceptance (“Fine. But this is absolutely, positively, the last hike I will ever go on for the rest of my life!”) Recalling a disappointing hike through a rainforest we had taken two weeks before, I felt compelled to add a sixth stage, one which only occurs in extreme circumstances, at a perfect storm of elevation gain, accumulated mileage, mud and bugs: Confabulation (“Look at the dog! You’re killing him!”). Finally, when I nagged enough to make even Tim agree to quit, I clutched the poodle to celebrate, beaming as I attempted to reinforce the wisdom of my husband’s capitulation.
“I’m so glad you didn’t make me continue to the top. This way, I could actually enjoy how beautiful it was. I’d even do it again.”
“Really?” Tim retorted. “I wouldn’t.”
I hope you’re enjoying reading about our extraordinary journey. It you want to learn more (or just have some laughs) please visit www.QueenOfTheRoadTheBook.com for pictures of our trip, my blog, more videos and podcasts, book tour appearances and events, as well as more excerpts. If you do stop by my website, please be sure to click on the “Share a Thought” link. I’d love to hear from you.
© Doreen Orion
Doreen Orion is a triple-boarded psychiatrist and award-winning author. Her memoir, QUEEN OF THE ROAD: The True Tale of 47 States, 22,000 Miles, 200 Shoes, 2 Cats, 1 Poodle, a Husband, and a Bus With a Will of Its Own will be published in June by Broadway Books. For more information, go to www.QueenoftheRoadtheBook.com.
The above image of Doreen, Tim, and the adorable Miles belongs to Doreen Orion and is being used according to her specifications.
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