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Despite the fact that I’ve talked about the benefits of online dating until I’ve been basically blue in the face, there is always someone that writes me that says, “I don’t want to date online because I’m not that desperate.” Yikes. Get a clue. If you really some additional reasons on the benefits of online dating, here are some just for you.
Online Dating Gives You More Choices
Online dating is for busy people, people just out of a relationship, people who for whatever reason just haven’t met the right person yet. It isn’t for the lame, weird, or desperate. Get over it.
Online Dating Has a High Success Rate
There are people who claim they “could never” online date. Fine – that’s more for the rest of us. One woman who claimed she would never online date came out of a 20-year marriage where her husband was drunk for most of it. She exactly said to me, “I’d prefer to get set up by friends. That’s how I met my husband.” I wanted to say, “Yeah and look how fabulous that turned out.”
If you don’t want to go online, fine. But don’t put people down that have tried it. You can meet great people online, while that guy your friend set you up with might be a louse. Online dating is another option, and comes with a higher success rate (meaning that singles have met someone special) than other methods.
To Each His Own
There is a lot of fear involved with the statement “Online dating is for desperate people.” To me this is someone who is afraid of the Internet, has heard horror stories, and can’t admit that they would probably be terrible at online dating.
Online dating has worked for so many people I know personally that I can confidently say it is a good way to meet people. The people that succeed with online dating tend to be more open, positive, and confident than those that don’t. It doesn’t surprise me that certain people are too negative or fearful to even try online dating, let alone succeed. What does surprise me is the amount of judgment people throw around.
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my sister and I have been in a little bit of a slump so she told me to go to POF, she had been trying it and meeting people (she even saw a picture of an old friend from when were little and they reconnected and got coffee). i never thought id be someone to use online, i mean… i’m only 20, i thought online dating would be for people maybe 25+. I’ve had steady relationships with girls I did not meet online, my last relationship ended and it took a toll on me, everything changed and I went away to college, lost my pet, and did not have an instant group of friends when I got here.
I’m not the most outgoing person, I’m pretty shy and introverted until you get to know me. I tried a school online dating site to no avail and frustrated with no one ever contacting me I finally gave into POF. I met a girl who lives in the dorm across the street from me and we have been talking. Sure, sometimes I question myself for trying online dating. But since I have tried it, my self esteem has gone way up. Even girls who just view my profile makes me feel good about myself, like… there IS a girl out there who thinks I’m cute, that’s why they clicked on my profile right? That’s why they message me and want to talk!
It has so far been an all around positive experience. It’s bringing me friends on and off campus that I would have otherwise never met.
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Right on! It’s a tool to meet people. You can find crazies online, you can find crazies in the supermarket, you can find crazies through your friends. Let’s not label online dating.
It’s a very old fashioned view to think of online dating as ‘only for the desperate’ which I think harks back to early days of the internet and chat room stalkers.
The point you make is absolutely the right one; online dating is another medium for people to use, it’s a convenient way for busy people to meet and for anyone under the age of forty it’s really no big deal; most of their social relationships have online personas.
‘Don’t knock it til you try it’ is my motto!
I’m with you! Worked for me. I don’t get how negative people are about it. It’s a means to an end. It works for people. What’s the big deal?
Worked for me. Man, are there some weirdos out there, though! The Doms crack me up. The ones who expect a little something on the third date are blech.
But this one guy? We broke up, and he was the truest friend to me. And then asked if we could get it right, this time. Two and a half years for him to figure himself out, but worth every minute.
And we met through that online dating thing.