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If you’ve not heard about Tiger Woods and his apology for his supposed sex addiction, then I’d like to know what cave you live in – because I want to be your neighbor. Enough about Tiger Woods – except here I am writing about him. But, I’m not taking the same stand many people are. I don’t go for:
All athletes or celebrities do this- It’s a sex addiction, give the guy a break
- He’s a role model who has fallen from grace
Why?
1- Not all athletes or celebrities “do this”
2- In my opinion, “sex addiction” is a cop out
3- Why is he a role model? Because he’s rich? Because he plays golf well?
Sex Addiction. It’s considered an actual problem, enough that there are sex addiction “clinics” and sex addiction treatments. I have an idea. How about we take responsibility for our actions and leave the word “addiction” to serious and real issues, like drug addiction.
Someone who wants a lot of sex is just that. Someone who wants a lot of sex. There’s no physical problem that occurs if they don’t have sex. There’s no mental breakdown if they don’t have sex. They just don’t have it. They may feel sorry for themselves that they’re not getting it, but it’s not like their body is going to fall apart because they have to be celibate for a few hours.
But, in our society, which these days doesn’t seem to want people to accept responsibility for their actions, has deemed that this is something we can’t control either. We now have sex addicts.
According to MedicineNet, sex addiction is:
The term “sexual addiction” is used to describe the behavior of a person who has an unusually intense sex drive or an obsession with sex. Sex and the thought of sex tend to dominate the sex addict’s thinking, making it difficult to work or engage in healthy personal relationships.
I have an idea: If you’re thinking about sex all the time, it’s time to take up a hobby.
I know a lot of people won’t agree with me and that this is an unpopular opinion, but I’m fed up with people not taking responsibility for their own behaviors. I have some things that I could focus on 24 hours a day, if I could. There are some things I’d love to do and yes, I may even pout if I can’t do them when I want to do them. I could go overboard and do them anyway, despite the consequences. For example, I’d love to put a lot of pretty things on credit so I can have them, but I know I shouldn’t, so I don’t. I’d love to not work and just play sometimes, but I know I can’t. It doesn’t make me happy to work when I don’t want to – but that’s what life is all about. We can’t always do what we want to do when we want to do it.
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“The term “sexual addiction” is used to describe the behavior of a person who has an unusually intense sex drive or an obsession with sex. Sex and the thought of sex tend to dominate the sex addict’s thinking, making it difficult to work or engage in healthy personal relationships.”
Doesn’t this describe almost all teen-age boys? I know I was pretty much a sex addict at that time. I didn’t get to act on it, but then I wasn’t Tiger Woods.
Well put, Marijke, responsibility seems to be gone by the wayside for many celebrities. And celebrity worship is causing many to behave in an equally reprehensible manner.
Ya know, if people would chill out on the hero worship, it would be a lot easier to just kick the adulterers (dog fighters, ear biters, etc)to the curb when they get caught.
Tiger Woods played a good game of golf … but even -that- seems to have lost its edge of late. He might be a great lover and provider, but he’s a lousy husband.
He said he’s in therapy, but he didn’t say it was for sex addiction. I’m assuming it’s overall therapy (the same kind of therapy most people get). I might be wrong & he might be in a sex addiction rehab, but I haven’t heard him say that.
I couldn’t have said it better myself! Great post!
Hi Tracey,
I could have sworn I read something about him saying that he was going to get more treatment. Or maybe I’m wrong?
It seems to be other people calling it a sex addiction, though. I listened to Tiger’s apology twice yesterday and he called it being unfaithful (which it was). I thought it was a well-written apology (obviously written by a pro, IMO) and he took full blame for what he did and didn’t try to fob it off as an addiction or other excuse.