it was a lovely day. I really do enjoy wandering the market. it’s such a hep part of town. I love watching people at the hip coffee shop, wandering the craft vendors, saying hello to crazy Viktor and all the others I know from days gone by. The fresh produce vendors — sweet pea tendrils and edible flowers, oh my! The flea market, the good deal old furniture and the rip off old furniture. It’s just a place that brings me joy. Today I had coffee with a dear lovely friend of mine, the talented Madame Meow. We had a lovely girls’ morning out, she resplendent in her vintage frock and straw hat, me scrumbly in sari and blue jeans.
At lunch with parents and kid (the King of Everything was determined to give me a surprise party, dammit, and I was determined to be surprised!), I had a wonderful realization: I am happier than I have ever been.
I keep reading these studies and articles on how damaging divorce is, on the kids, on the adults, on the economy. I just don’t see it. I feel great, if a bit out of shape. The Kid is the sweetest, kindest, smartest kid, with a life full of great friends and caring adults, stimulating adventures and nothing but love. I’m making more money than I ever have, working a job I love, in an industry I feel blessed to be a part of, with a bunch of exceptional people who say nothing but GO FOR IT! and never try to make me stumble or cut me down. I’m dating. For the first time perhaps in my whole life, I am dating. Going out with interesting, attractive men, men with good careers and great conversations — and with more than one of them (I intend) and without having sex with them (cause I’m all about revamping how I do things in this life). I’m finally giving myself time, forgiving myself for past mistakes, and finding worth and value in who I am and what I do.
How cool is that?
What a beautiful birthday present: I got me.
happy happy happy birthday christina! it sounds like you had a marvellous day!
Happy Birthday!!!
*HUGS*
Happy Birthday to you! Upon meeting us, married folks often laugh nervously at the intro “Hi, I’m Ike, I’m happily divorced” but until you’ve experienced it, you can’t know how liberating it is to get out of a bad situation. My friends who comment that my condo is so much smaller than the house I used to have don’t realize that square footage doesn’t matter …. what matters is that it is mine! The colors and furniture and floors are all mine and I don’t have to ask anybody what they think! I think the bonus here is that in addition to everything you already listed, we as single moms are also providing a great example of what it means to be an independent woman – this is key to all of our kids, boys and girls alike.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*HUGS*