How to Fix Your Sex Problems In 2 Minutes

What’s the biggest problem with relationships, these days? Time, says Psychology Today’s Stephen Snyder, M.D.. According to Snyder, one of the biggest problems in modern relationships of any kind — monogamous or polyamorous — is that we don’t have enough time… for sex, mostly. The Manhattan-based sexologist cites the example of most of his clients, who find that between work, sleep, and maintaining a social life, there’s barely time left for laundry, let alone foreplay. For anyone who’s schedule has never met the words “leisure,” you know that sex is one of the first things to go (no matter how good it used to be), but Snyder suggests a simple, two-minute fix called “simmering.”

Simmering is what Snyder describes “taking a quick moment to feel aroused with one’s partner, even under conditions where sex is not going to be practical.” Just two minutes of intimacy and arousal that don’t involve actual sex (and don’t get you so excited that you’ll feel more frustrated than happy afterwards) can help pep up your relationship, even if you really do have just two minutes. He uses the example of high school sweethearts catching a quick embrace in the hallway right before class; we imagine a more seasonally- (and age-) appropriate moment under the mistletoe.

via Psychology Today

Want more tips on how to fix your sex problems, even when you’re busy and stressed out? Check out Dr. Carol Queen’s Sex Tips and Holiday Gift Guide.