I have to admit, I like getting an email from this woman. It’s amusing, reaffirming, and sometimes, she even tells me something I don’t know.
Last nights Dating Dish had some great advice about how to look for the right man and in the process avoid picking up Mr. Wrong Again. If you’d like to subscribe to her emails or get her e-book on Dating Without Drama, I’d highly recommend it. In the meantime, here’s what she has to say about picking the right guy….
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Is He Boyfriend Material? A Checklist of Signs:
__ Passion:
Does he have goals and dreams for his future? Is he
committed to pursuing them?
__ Good Health & Habits:
Does he take good care of himself (eat well, go to the
gym, etc.)? Does he have any habits that are deal-
breakers (Drug or alcohol abuse, smoking)?
__ Balanced Emotional State:
Does he seem stable? (Beware of overly jaded types,
those with excessive ‘emotional baggage,’ or men with
rage issues or out-of-control mood swings.)
__ Treats You Well:
Does he treat you with respect and consideration? How
do you feel when you’re around him – happy, relaxed,
safe? If he makes you feel uneasy, insecure, controlled,
or threatened, he is definitely not boyfriend material.
__ Treats Others Well:
Is he friendly with his doorman? Is he kind to
waitresses and generous with tips? If he’s pleasant
with other people it’s a good sign that he’s not just
putting on an act for you.
__ Healthy Relationship Track Record:
What is his dating history like? Is he a serial
monogamist or the king of one-night stands? If he
hasn’t dated much (or at all), that could also be a red
flag. If you know other women he’s dated in the past,
do they have good things to say about him?
__ Good Relationship With His Family:
Is he close with his family? Does he treat his parents
with respect? Is he friendly with his siblings? These
are all good signs of a quality man. However….Beware
of the Mama’s Boy! A man who hasn’t “cut the cord” with
his mother is nothing but trouble – either he’ll expect
you to wait on him and make his bed OR you’ll spend your
life trying to live up to the perfect image of Mommy.
Either way, it’s not good – so get out now and save
yourself for a man who will make you the #1 woman in
his life!
__ Maturity Level:
Does he follow through on his responsibilities? If he
blows off a commitment to stay home and play Xbox, he
may not be ready to meet the obligations of an adult
relationship.
Get the REST of the “Boyfriend Material” Checklist as well as
dozens of other tools for dating success in “Reflections and
Revelations: A Dater’s Self-Discovery Guide” – it’s my bonus
gift to you when download my Dating Without Drama ebook!
Just follow this link to get your very own copy:
Jaida, I’d assume the worst and not even bother to hope for the best. If your guy puts the breaks on when it comes time for a face to face? I’m guessing he’s married, in a serious relationship, or otherwise bored, lonely, and playing you. I’d just drop him if I were you. If he really is all that? He’ll come looking for you. You might want to get a copy of the dating book, “The Four Man Plan” at http://www.thefourmanplan.com/ — some of the areas are NOT SAFE FOR WORK and you shouldn’t be reading dating sites on the job anyway!
good luck, lady. It’s tough.
I had a question …I met this guy via internet…we texted for months…we met once …and continue to have good conversations …he stated he wanted. Love…family…he is crazy about me…and on and on…he lives outside my city…his pursuing me …I now am interested in pursuing a relationship…and he says he isn’t ready for a serious relationship yet… what do I make of this? I don’t want to pursue if its not what he really wants or does he but just not yet?
I am a huge fan of Paige Parker!
There are a lot of books out there on the internet to give sound advice for women, but I still believe that “Dating Without Drama” is one of the best e-books out there for this type of stuff.
Thanks so much for this post, its good to know that others see the same amount of value that I saw in it too.
In fact I loved it so much I actually did a video review of it on my website too! It gives my readers an insider look into the actual e-book.
http://hotalphafemale.blogspot.com/2009/03/paige-parker-dating-without-drama.html
Thanks for sharing.
Cheers
Hot Alpha Female
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